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[AD_SANE_LEM]

Yes @Oaktree one really has to be ready for it. For me trust was hard because of the trauma I endured as a child. So therapy helped me a.) understand my emotions (both good and bad ones) b.) what to do when I get the bad emotions and c.) how do I begin trusting people. I had to learn that not everyone is out to get me lol. 

But it's a journey and you have to be ready for it. 

You could go to the best therapist in the world - but if you're not ready for it, you're not going to get anywhere.

Go gently.

[Oaktree]

Thanks @AD_SANE_LEM 

You are wise.

Your answers have helped me a lot.

I also need to work on emotional regulation and learning to trust people. If anyone else asks you about this feel free to drag them over to this thread to read what you have already shared. It must be boring to keep repeating your story.

Thank you so much for being so forthcoming 

[Shaz51]

Hello @Oaktree , @AD_SANE_LEM 

I was emotionally and mentally and physically abused by my father until mum and I left But he kept rejecting me until his death 

It is hard sometimes to carry on and not to remember the rejection 

@Glisten , @PeppyPatti , @Zoe7 , @Jynx , @Ainjoule , @tyme 

[Oaktree]

@Shaz51 

I know right? My father was physically abusive and my Mother was mentally abusive as well as slapping me often. I keep thinking I am 53 now! My childhood was so long ago. But it still affects me. 
@AD_SANE_LEM 

[Shaz51]

Yes it does still affects me @Oaktree,  @AD_SANE_LEM , sometimes I think it should not worry me anymore but it does and I am 60 

And my dad passed away 17 years ago 

[Jynx]

Oh for sure @Shaz51 the scars of those old wounds still pang don't they? Sometimes it comes outta nowhere. Don't forget though that his rejection only reflects on him, and not on you or your worth. Can be hard to remember, but do try to eh?

Sending you some very squishy huggles!🫂

[Oaktree]

@Shaz51 @AD_SANE_LEM 

I am sorry that you guys experienced childhood trauma. I know how destructive it can be. You are doing well coping with your respective challenges 

[Shaz51]

Very true @Jynx 

Dad's friends  used to get soo mad at him  because when he saw me he would dart into the nearest shop 

Thank ❤️ you for the hugs 🫂 

[Oaktree]

@Shaz51 

Love to you hun. 
Have you considered therapy?

I hope you can learn to move past your childhood trauma and feelings of rejection 

[Jynx]

@Shaz51 😮☹️😞  wow. That's a level of petty I wasn't expecting. I'm sorry you had to deal with that hun.