Yeah I have my own hobbies and take my own time out when I can, it's more about feeling comfortable/safe within the relationship that I struggle with.

I do have a psychologist to help me, but that has been a long road too as I am on my third in two years, the last two got very negative about my partners behaviour and that just flamed my negative feelings. The current one seems better, so far, but we are still only a few sessions in and there is a lot of history to cover.