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13-10-2020 01:12 PM
13-10-2020 01:12 PM
Needing advice on moving forward
Hi all I'm only new here but I'm desperate for some help on how to move forward from my previous marriage that turned out to be a nightmare for me. I've since found a woman that treats me like a king and I've never been so happy in life yet my past keeps popping up and I say or word things the wrong way, I'm always defensive and my actions are causing bad reactions for my new relationship. I really want to move forward and for us to be happy I've never been so excited in life yet at the same time I've never felt so low at times?? Any help would be greatly appreciated cheers all
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13-10-2020 01:16 PM
13-10-2020 01:16 PM
Re: Needing advice on moving forward
Hi @Cormax
Welcome to the SANE forums! It's great to have you here and thanks for telling the community a bit about yourself. I'm sure the forum members will be able to offer you support, information and connection.
I'm the moderator on duty right now. Feel free to ask the SANE forum team or the members if you need help with how to use the forum. You might like to check out the Guidelines as they can be pretty useful in understanding how it all works https://saneforums.org/t5/help/faqpage#community-guidelines.
Take care.
Whitehawk
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13-10-2020 06:11 PM
13-10-2020 06:11 PM
Re: Needing advice on moving forward
Hi there,
I can relate to your situation. After leaving a very bad 20 yr marriage a few years ago, I finally hit some counseling for the same reason. Turns out I'm in a trauma bond with the ex. After googling what a Trauma Bond is, everything makes so much more sense now, and basically having zero contact (if possible) and understanding that i was not the cause or deserving of their behaviour is helping me. Still triggered at times, but getting better. Worth researching to see if that resonates for you too. Best of luck 🤞
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14-10-2020 08:52 AM
14-10-2020 08:52 AM
Re: Needing advice on moving forward
Thank you overloaded for that advice I will look into it and see what it explains, thank you again greatly appreciated