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[Catlady2018]

Hi, I'm new to this forum and still trying to navigate it. But I am an older person in my fifties who has been diagnosed with BPD, kind of late but I always knew that there was something quite wrong. I am glad it is recognized more often as trauma issues.  But there have been lots of triggers lately that have brought my BPD to the surface again. I have been having some problems with my therapist around boundaries at the moment. 

[rav3n]

welcome to the forums @Catlady2018 !! 

it's lovely to meet you. i know navigating online spaces can be a lil tricky at first so if you have any questions/concerns, feel free to ask at any time - the community members are here to help. in the 'welcome and get started space' there are some handy threads which i'll link here too:

• Forums how-to: general tips and tricks! - SANE Forums
• Welcome! Introduce yourself here 🙂 - SANE Forums

we've also got some social threads where you can connect with others:

• Looking for a space to connect with others? Find a... - SANE Forums
• Newbie's Social Club - Come make some friends! - SANE Forums
• Best Friends Club - SANE Forums

setting boundaries are definitely important! do you mind sharing a bit more about the boundaries with your therapist? i know other community members can definitely relate to this topic and share some input soon.

[Wesco5454]

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Hi @Catlady2018, welcome to the forum! Being diagnosed later in life can be a lot to process, but it’s great that you’re recognizing the connection to trauma—it’s such an important piece of understanding BPD. Triggers can be overwhelming, and I’m sorry to hear you’re dealing with challenges around boundaries with your therapist. If you feel comfortable, bringing it up with them might help to clear the air and rebuild trust. Take it one step at a time, and know you’re not alone—we’re here to support you

[Ainjoule]

Hey @Catlady2018 

Welcome to the forums! Glad that your BPD was recognised. Many people here, including myself, have BPD so you are in good company 😊. Making you a virtual cuppa...

[Catlady2018]

Thank you.

[Catlady2018]

Thank you for that info, I'm sure that should help.
Yes, Boundaries are a big thing at the moment as my therapist has given me an ultimatum and said no more emailing her except only to contact her for appointment changes etc. I have been seeing her for just over seven years now. In the beginning, she didn't mind so much, but she now has a growing private practice, so she has asked that I not email or otherwise she will refer me on. This is a big worry for me because I don't want to see anyone else and start again. Plus I like my therapist she is very good at what she does.

[Catlady2018]

Thank you so much.

[Catlady2018]

Thank you, I'm sure I will get lot out of it.

[tyme]

How are you @Catlady2018 ?

I've just read your post and I wanted to check in to see how you are going. 

I have BPD so I know first hand some of the challenges you may be experiences.

I look forward to hearing from you. 

Feel free to tag me by typing "@" in front of my name e.g. @tyme