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02 Aug 2024 08:43 PM
02 Aug 2024 08:43 PM
02 Aug 2024 08:47 PM
02 Aug 2024 08:47 PM
@Matty19901 i get what you mean!
For me - i started by trying to process and understand my feelings first. at first i did this alone by writing it out, figuring out why i felt angry/upset, etc., but then it got to a point where i was stuck and the cycle of resentment kept repeating itself so i went to see a clinician. My clinician was amazing at validating and understanding me, and she helped me realise I was stuck on this that weren't in my control and helped me focus on things that I can control.
Have you reached out to a professional before?
02 Aug 2024 08:47 PM
02 Aug 2024 08:47 PM
Yes I would like to talk to u if Ur free now.
02 Aug 2024 08:49 PM
02 Aug 2024 08:49 PM
@rav3n yes I have but they only gave me surface level things to do and never looked at the core issues so I stopped and the one I went to retired and the others are way to expensive
02 Aug 2024 09:18 PM
02 Aug 2024 09:18 PM
ahh i see! @Matty19901 it's great you've tried reaching out to a professional before, it's not an easy step. I had to switch between 3 professionals before I found one that understood me and helped my core issues.
I think venting also helped me out, and this forums a perfect place for you to do that too if that's something you'd like to do (just don't forget to make sure it meets the community guidelines!) - we're here for you 💗
also there's this trauma thread you can check out if you're interested too. do you have any self-care or self-soothing practices in place for managing your emotions? or would you like me to share some?
02 Aug 2024 09:30 PM
02 Aug 2024 09:30 PM
@rav3n if you could share some that would be great
02 Aug 2024 09:42 PM
02 Aug 2024 09:42 PM
of course! @Matty19901
here are some threads that have a range of self-care tips: self-care box, starting my self care journey and self-care activities.
here's some self-soothing tools (similar to self-care): Self-Soothing (blueknot.org.au)
personally, i like to allocate 1-2 hours each day for my self-care. if you don't have as much time, that's totally fine - in 10 mins a day can make a huge difference. my self-care involves exercising, i like going to the gym and burning my 'anger' and negative emotions through challenging myself there. some people prefer meditation, music, etc., i like to shake my stress out!
let me know which self-care/self-soothing strategies you try! 💗
02 Aug 2024 09:51 PM
02 Aug 2024 09:51 PM
@rav3n can u explain a little more what the self care box is? Also i don't go to the gym so anything else u can suggest would be greatly appreciated
02 Aug 2024 10:01 PM
02 Aug 2024 10:01 PM
@Matty19901 that's totally fine!! if you click on the self-care box link in my previous message you can see the thread of what people consider their self-care items! it's just a fun way of categorising things that bring us calm/comfort. sometimes it can be things that soothe our inner child like squishy toys, puzzles, etc., or could be other items like music, candles, skin care routines, etc!
02 Aug 2024 10:20 PM
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