What else can happen.? Feeling so stressed

[Chris]

So many health issues going on in the family. My sister overseas, can't get any answers disputed talking to relatives . Sounds more and more like cancer.

My husband had to have cancer cut out near his ankle. One hour operation they have told him and two weeks with his legs up complete rest, and he may need a skin graft. If you saw the condition of his skin you would understand why I'm worried.

phone call the. The early hours of the morning to say our son interstate had been taken to hospital with chest pain. Although he was released some hours later he has to have further investigations.

i go to get my results tomorrow. I keep telling myself it is something other than cancer (that was a possibility 

the Dr mentioned.

plus two elderly relatives quit sick at the moment.

i haven't been able fo function all day. My head feels like it's in vice.Sorry about this rant, but I have to get it out of my head somehow.

Doesn't really matter if no one replies.we all have our own things to deal with.

[Former-Member]

Wow Chris, that all sounds very worrying. So much going on, I can understand why you are feeling so stressed and like your head is in a vice! I really hope that your results for tomorrow are positive. 

With your husbands operation, has it happened yet or is it going to happen soon? Try to not worry too much about what may or may not happen (thats what i keep getting told lol). We can't predict the future and worrying about those things only adds weight to what we're already carrying. I wish you could get some accurate factual information about your sister as that would help a lot too.

Here listening and caring, even though theres not much i can say to help. Please keep writing it out if it helps!

LJ

[Gypsy]

Chris my kindest thoughts and wishes are with you and your family. Such a difficult time you are going through.... Remember to take care of you.

[Chris]

So my husband recieved a letter from the drs surgery yesterday advising him to make an appointment for test results. He thought he already had that, so were not sure whats going on. His operation isnt untll 18th February. 

I dont feel much further ahead. I now have to see a gynecologist, and will likely have to have a d &c so more waiting. After i expressed my concern over a long wait to see the specialist. He said he would get his receptionist to fax the paper work through and ring them tomorow for an appointment. His concern was he doesnt want me waiting a couple of months. Ive seen this specialist before and it was a long wait to see her. Still the possibility of it being cancer but he said it is easily treated if it is. And not to get too concerned about it.

[NikNik]

Hi @Chris

I'm relieved that it seems, while it still could be cancer, it's very treatable. Does this give you some peace of mind?

Nik

[Former-Member]

Hi @Chris - I hope that your appointment is made quickly for you so that you can get more information to help you. At least you know dates for your husband which helps with planning,
Thinking of you,
Lj

[Chris]

I recieved a phone call from the specialists rooms yesterday. afternoon,  and i have an appointment  for next Thursday. So relieved about that.

I told my husband last night. A bit shocked . Told me to take our daughter with me to the appointment.  I said i wouldnt do that as she has enough going on without worrying  about me. Im fine going by myself. Its the waiting i find really hard. I know from what my gp said that i will have to go into hospital for a d & c. More waiting then waiting for results. Then hysterectomy if it is cancer. Im use to coping with having operations  with little support, so that side of it doesnt really bother me. As i said its just all the waiting. I barely function  on a day to day basis.

My husband is going to go to our gp to get a second opinion and hopefully refered to a dermatologist.  I think this is too big a job for gp who just specialises  in skin cancer. The state of the skin on his legs is very poor. He has had two previous dvt's and suffers from leg ulsers which take up to a year to heal , plus he is diabetic. So you see my concerns. Im amazed that he has actually listened to me on this.

Well group today. Dont know if im brave enough to bring some of this up.

[NikNik]

Hi @Chris
How did group go today? Was it helpful?

[Chris]

I didnt spend alot of time on my situation at the moment. I found myself being defensive.  Saying i was ok with doing this mostly on my own. The facilitator wasnt convinced. I said i wasnt worried about it and she said i was. She must have seen something i wasnt aware of. I guess i am doing what i usually do. Minimise the situation and switch off the emotion. Its all i know how to do to cope. If i expect nothing from anyone i wont get disappointed or hurt.

There were some other confronting moments, which stopped me in my tracks, but thats the nature of therapy, and that what starts awareness and eventually change to take place.

[Former-Member]

Hi Chris, i think your reflection on the session is really insightful. As you say awareness leads to change. Maybe there's still time to ask for some support, even at the risk of being let down...
Lj