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Hi @MJG017 I am so glad to hear that you are still kicking. 

 

I nearly wasn't on the 29th Dec. I was in a car accident where I was doing 80km and the other person was doing 100km and he failed to give way to me. I was taken to hospital with chest pain from the seatbelt and knee pain from hitting the bottom of the dash with them. My internal organs didn't like stopping suddenly and I had a severe gallstone attack 2 days after the accident. When they did an ultrasound of my gallbladder, the doctor said that it had gone vertical. I ended up having 3 hospital visits within 5 days. And apparently it also did some minor damage to my heart. I am not sure if this is something that will fix itself or if I have to live with it. When the ambulance was called because of the severe gallstone attack, they took me in under a cardiac issue rather than abdominal. I really think that my Dad was looking over me during the accident, as I was very lucky to have minor injuries so far. 

 

My car was a write-off and the other guy told his insurance company I was in the wrong. Both the Firefighters and the Police said that I had the right of way. I ended up going back to the accident site and taking photos of the sign that told him a give way sign is 150m ahead and the actual give way sign. I sent them through to his insurance company and haven't heard from them since.

 

With the help of my partner, I ended up purchasing a 2016 FG XR6 with sports exhaust. It is a much better car and sounds tough. But I don't enjoy driving like I used to. I have lost my confidence and keep thinking that people are going to crash into me. 

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For the first time in a long time, I finally feel like my antidepressants are working and I have been feeling alot better.  But my pharmacist rang me earlier this week to tell me that the company is no longer producing my antidepressant and they will substitute it with the generic brand.  But I tried the generic brand, and they don't work for me. So I am going to have to go through the weaning process all over again. So I am not looking forward to that.

 

I feel like for some reason I am never going to get on top of my mental illnesses, and I won't find true happiness again.

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@MJG017 when I went to purchase my car, they had this beauty in the car lot.

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 If only I had a spare $50K. Lol

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@Mustang67 

 

So sorry about the news about your antidepressant. That is a blow particularly when you have been feeling so well lately. You sound like you have been keeping busy. 

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Dear @Mustang67 

What a nightmare !!

I used to drive millions of miles when my children were little - I studied, cleaned houses, worked a lot plus children. Then married someone who couldn't drive for 10 years.

 

If I was you, do you need to do extra driving ? Can you somehow cut down on your driving and only drive in important issues ? 

 

You have a story there. It's tough and your medication may need to be juggled by your GP ? Ide probably not cope at all if my antidepressants were not at top form. 

It feels like you have support from your partner ? 

Today I hardly drive - my new husband does all the driving. 

It has made me realise I was having panic attacks almost every night ----- my stress levels were high. I was in a high emotional state for years and years. 

 

I didn't understand my own body. 

 

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@Mustang67 

Oh wow!  It does sound like you were very lucky to come out of the accident as well as you did!  If not your Dad, someone was looking out for you!  It must have been a massive hit!  So many people will try to blame the other person.  I bought a dashcam for my partner last year for this very reason.

 

So we now both have FG XR6s... and it's blue as well!  Mine is a darker blue though.

 

I think it takes everyone a while to get confidence back after an accident like that.  It can really shake you up for quite a long time.

 

That is so annoying about the meds...and so incredibly frustrating!!  I really hope for your sake you can find something a lot quicker to work this time and not have to go through all of that again.  I really hope that it works much faster this time and you can start to find some if that happiness that you deserve so very much.

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Thank you @MJG017. I actually saw a dark blue FG XR6 today. Nice!

 

I really like the look of them.

 

I do feel a little bit safer in a bigger car. The Mazda 6 had 7 airbags and not one of them deployed during the accident. I hope the airbags in this car work.

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@Mustang67 

My partner bout a new car in 2021 and while she was doing the paperwork I went out in the year to drawl over a very similar Mustang. 

 

Now that I don't exactly need to save for a retirement anymore, you don't know how tempting it is to cash the savings and go out very happy! ,🤣

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@PeppyPatti I used to always let my partner's drive, but when I purchased my first XR6 Turbo, I would always drive. I hardly let my current partner drive my new XR6, as he doesn't have a great driving record.

 

I know it will just take time for me to get my confidence back. Plus I need to get used to driving a bigger car. I swear parking spaces have shrunk these days. Lol

 

I hate having to go through changing my antidepressants. I don't go well when doing the change over. And I changed to different one last year because of the side effects. So I got different ones, with a different set of side effects. 

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@Oaktree I don't mind keeping busy helping my mum. She lost her husband (my step dad) on Christmas day 2023. They were married for 46 years and she really missed him. So by helping her out, I can keep an eye on her and her health. She is 85 next month. 

 

And since I lost my partner 22 years ago, I know how she feels through her stages of grief and I make myself available if she ever wants to talk. I think that my sisters don't want to bring up my dad around mum, but I know it is OK to do so, and to relive good memories. 

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@MJG017 that would be awesome to go out very happily in a mustang. 

 

Do you have superannuation that you can cash in early because of your diagnosis? That would help you get a beautiful mustang. 

 

Would you get an older one or newer one.

 

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