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[Gremlin24]

@avant-garde thanks, that's helpful information to know.  I'm going through a service at the moment that's helping me with the application process so I'm hoping that works out but it's still early days. 

[Ainjoule]

@tyme @Oaktree One good thing happened my NDIS plan rolled over. I'm not sure whether they are still going to reassess or not but they gave me the same funding as I had for the past year for the next year. So I can resume my supports. Phew. 

[Blackcloud]

@avant-garde oh wow!! There’s such thing like that that actually exists?! 😮 I need to have a look up on that later, but wow that’s actually interesting and def sounds like something that would def be worth looking at for me!! 😄

@Gremlin24 yeah that’s true too.

I just hope I can at least get the best out of the social events that I’ll be attending to at least improve on my social skills and perhaps my ability to make connections with my peers at least..even if it’s just a little bit I guess.

thats fair enough, I myself been out for a walk at the park a bit this morning and was able to come across some beautiful things there that I have never come across with..it’s probably because I’ve only been to the other park next to it this whole time. But this water fountain thingy looks beautiful!

 

[Gremlin24]

@Blackcloud you got this, you know what you want to get out of this and i believe in you. 

That fountain is beautiful 😍. 

[Oaktree]

That’s great @Ainjoule 

If my NDIS gets rolled over I won’t bother getting a review as I have really good funding at the moment. I am glad that you get to keep your current supports

[MJG017]

@Gremlin24 

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but when my emotions come out things get incredibly intense really fast.

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As someone who never talked to anyone about anything until about 18 months ago, i have experienced a similar thing.  I'll intend to just say one personal thing to a counselor (it's all still very new to me), but everything just comes pouring out and I don't even think to try and stop it until i'm done.  I feel like an idiot after and like i made a fool of myself.  But I always feel better for doing it.  Half the time, when I go back I do it all again! 😁

It's really helped me to tell someone my feelings, frustrations, and pain.  I still always feel embarrassed afterwards and tell myself "Okay.. we have to stop doing that!" but I now try to look at it as that is the old me talking.  The me that bottled everything up and never shared anything.  So when i feel that same embarrassment every time, i tell that me to bugger off!  That me was never any help, and yeah, made things easier by ignoring everything, but never made things better.

The last appointment I had with my post adoption support counselor I noticed there was a 2nd box of tissues on the table.  I'm still not sure if that was a direct result of our previous session or not! 🤣 

[Gremlin24]

@MJG017 that's the thing with me i bottle everything up cos I just don't have anyone to talk to anyway. So when I do make that connection with someone everything comes rushing out and there is no controlling it.

I constantly apologise for my emotions and for them having to deal with it. Unfortunately I punish myself after for letting myself feel things and for burdening someone with my problems and yes that's something I'm working on changing, I'm trying to remind myself that I'm allowed to feel things and I'm allowed to show those feelings and emotions. 

That second box of tissues may or may not be a direct result of your previous session, but if you don't need them feel free to send them my way 😂.

[MJG017]

@Gremlin24 

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that's the thing with me i bottle everything up cos I just don't have anyone to talk to anyway. So when I do make that connection with someone everything comes rushing out and there is no controlling it.

I constantly apologise for my emotions and for them having to deal with it. Unfortunately I punish myself after for letting myself feel things and for burdening someone with my problems and yes that's something I'm working on changing, I'm trying to remind myself that I'm allowed to feel things and I'm allowed to show those feelings and emotions. 

Yeah, I honestly don't know if we ever become comfortable letting our emotions out like that after containing them for so long, especially if it's all we've ever done!  It's like learning another language though... it takes time and practice.  And even then we probably never become as 'fluent' as we do in the language we first learnt.  We can go out an learn to speak Japanese for example.  But we probably never become as fluent as we do in English and we certainly never forget English... that is always with us.

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That second box of tissues may or may not be a direct result of your previous session, but if you don't need them feel free to send them my way 😂.

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No, they're all mine! 😂🤣  I think she may start charging me for them.

[Gremlin24]

@MJG017 it's definitely something I struggle with and you're probably right in that, that it's never something we ever become comfortable with. Love how you explain it and it makes so much sense. 

Fine hog them all then, not exactly something you can reuse either 😂. I guess that's one way to make money for each tissue you use that's gonna cost you $1. I'm drowning in my tears over here 😂

[avant-garde]

@Blackcloud 

https://www.health.gov.au/our-work/commonwealth-psychosocial-support-program

https://www.health.gov.au/our-work/phn/your-local-PHN

That should help