@Spirit_Healer wow thankyou. I'm listening and reading a Psychotherapist called Terry Real. He practices from Boston. He's a couple's therapist
What I like about him is that he emphasises empathy, vulnerability, and mutual respect in creating lasting, loving relationships. He believes in them and he speaks and writes about authenticity and genuine speech last paragraph helped written by ai.
I appreciate his focus on empathy, vulnerability, mutual respect, authenticity, and genuine connection as essential ingredients for healthy, lasting relationships.
The adapted child !! Phew. Iv got ,ai to help me tidy up my learnings on this because iv only been reading and hearing on audible about him in a short while.
- Terry Real's concept of the "adapted child" is how we act when we were children to cope in our environment and get out needs met.
It's very embarrassing to know we are still acting like that but we are older and bigger.
Like - our childhood sounds might be about constant reassurance
Fear of abandonment
Trust.*
Being defensive so - people pleasing.
Conflict
Lashing out
So often I say something to my husband and he misinterprets it and jumps down my throat.
Then I lash out ---
So the other day I say
' hey Mr Rocker, I'm sorry for my part in argument yesterday. I hate arguing with you. I don't want to do it anymore
Your too important to me.
So whako, we aren't arguing ( !!! )
But I do feel this anxiety ........
Remember we are both almost 60 ? Yippee !!!
Well, these are the years where we need to go to the doctors all the time. My husband smokes and lately his besties are dropping around him. Will my husband go to the doctors and get a check up ?
No
Besides that; it's wonderful marriage is very Kool.....
@Shaz51 @Spirit_Healer
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