12-12-2024 07:19 PM
12-12-2024 07:19 PM
Yes yes... thanks for the reminder @ENKELI
What have you been up to lately? I'm mindful things have been a bit tough. Has it been any easier lately?
12-12-2024 07:37 PM
12-12-2024 07:37 PM
@tyme thanks sweetheart, yes I am heaps better thank you. A lot of time spent praying and listening to God. My spirits have been boosted. Christmas is a difficult time as it was the second most important time of the year with ex friend and Godchildren. I still resent how she gets to move on and have a good time while I still cry and ache. I am letting myself feel and praying I will get over it in time.
I have been looking for a job but there isn't much out there. I am not stressing myself about it though, finally I know that doesn't help!
How have you been my friend? xo
12-12-2024 08:04 PM
12-12-2024 08:04 PM
@Jynx thanks honey, I'm sorry you had to do that, I need to actually think before posting.
I read the description of parentification and I don't think that's what mum did. I was in my mid to late teens when I was ironing and making my own lunches. She was a good mum but she favoured my bro to over compensate for what dad did to him. I was the good kid while bro was forever getting into trouble for shoplifting or breaking into the local high school for the heck of it.
I honestly enjoyed my childhood and I got plenty of love from my grandparents especially. It's only as an adult that we clashed a lot.
Yes, jokes need to be respectful, even if they are dark...
Wife: I love you.
Husband: Is that you or the wine talking?
Wife: It’s me talking. To the wine.
12-12-2024 08:11 PM
12-12-2024 08:11 PM
@PeppyPatti sorry to hear you're in pain. I will pray for relief for you lovely.
Those earrings are just lovely, and how special that they were made for you.
We all need a little pampering so if you can afford it you should do it.
I am the same regarding wrapping of Christmas gifts. One good thing about having no friends is that I only have a couple to wrap 😋
12-12-2024 08:33 PM
12-12-2024 08:33 PM
12-12-2024 08:36 PM
12-12-2024 08:36 PM
Yes I saw on weather forecasts that there is lots of rain and storms up your way again @Shaz51 . Stay safe. 💞🤗
12-12-2024 08:38 PM
12-12-2024 08:41 PM
12-12-2024 08:41 PM
Aww nah @ENKELI don't sweat it, takes like 2 minutes and I think it is a bit trickier on mobile, if that's what you use!!
I think one of the things that took me ages to realise was that I was still traumatised during childhood (emotional neglect) even though my parents did try their best, told us they loved us and were proud of us, all the good things. Used to torture myself over wondering why I was so messed up, when it seemed from every angle that my home life was good. It wasn't that they didn't love me enough, it was that they were mis-attuned to my needs and often my pain went under the radar, or was brushed aside when one of my siblings appeared to need more attention.
I'm not trying to say this is also your experience! But like, you talking about your bro reminded me of how my own siblings were always in trouble, and that I was always described as 'the easy one'.
Bahaha that's a great one!! Now, where's that jokes thread gone...
12-12-2024 08:42 PM
12-12-2024 08:46 PM
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