@TheRenegade345 oh my friend, I got told the same thing over and over. "No one will love you until you love yourself!" Yuck. What a horrifyingly damaging saying. That one was like a thorn in my brain for years. It completely misses the whole part where we literally evolved over thousands of years specifically to be social creatures. It decrees that anyone who hasn't got any friends is automatically a failure for not doing enough inner work, despite the fact that, well, there's only so much inner healing we can do before we need to go out and heal through our relationships with others. It's also worth acknowledging that there's soooooo many barriers in our modern world that interfere with our ability to find and create meaningful relationships.
So yes, it's absolute BS, and I am sorry that no one from your support team has ever given you that validation.
Ahh that's crappy. I can understand feeling super hesitant to want to consider a life coach after that experience. Though still... if you found a good one, could be super helpful. But like tyme was saying, if we aren't ready, if we don't believe in the person or process, or if we're just doing it because we think we're supposed to, it's probably not going to be particularly effective hey.
@TheRenegade345 wrote:
ive been in therapy for years, I just want something to show for all the work ive put in. I am so tired and exhausted my life is just slipping and I dont want to talk to professional supports I just want a life where I am appreciated and welcomed. I have never felt like the ever
A sense of belonging is in Maslow's Hierarchy for a reason, it's super important! And you absolutely deserve to have that.
A couple reflection questions - What would you like to be appreciated for? What kind of group would it feel good to be welcomed by?
No pressure to respond to them here, or at all! Just an invitation to unpack if you think it could help 💜
