Never being in a relationship

[RiverSeal]

Hey @TheRenegade345, I've been single most of my life and can appreciate how you might be feeling. It's tough being single and it seems so hard to meet someone these days I find and especially as I get older. What about giving Relationships Victoria a call and seeing what they can offer you in terms of support? https://www.relationshipsvictoria.org.au/counselling/ 

RiverSeal 

[TheRenegade345]

@RiverSeal 

I do appreciate the help but I have contacted them repeatedly in the past on this issue and they dont have anything to help me with. They are like a lot of people in society, they dont realise people who are not in relationships and struggle to get into one exist. I gave them feedback years ago on this issue but I dont think they ever got around to implementing it.

Again, I have exhausted every possible resource I can. There isn't anything out there that I can tell that can help with this stuff.

[TheRenegade345]

I went on another date today. It was over in half an hour.

I am doomed to die alone

[TheRenegade345]

Well I went on another date today. Initially I thought she had ghosted me but popped back in at the last minute.

It’s a familiar story. Nothing bad happened, good conversation, I was mindful of being expressive, we get to the end of the date (it only lasted one hour which I think is a red flag), and I thought it went well. However, I’m sick of getting to the end of the date where the other person is the arbiter of whether or not we go to a second date. I expressed that I would rather hear it now whether we got a second date or not because I don’t want to drive the 50 minutes home to find out she wasn’t interested. She ends up saying no.

This has happened a bit and I don’t know what I’m not picking up that they are. I thought it went well but clearly I’m missing something. This has really fueled the feelings of rejection again. I know it’s a case of being simply incompatible but I just want to know what I could do more to improve this area of my life.

[TheRenegade345]

I feel like my head is about to explode.

[TheRenegade345]

I feel so much rage

[TheRenegade345]

Is there anyone to talk too?

[Ru-bee]

Hi @TheRenegade345 

I'm around today. How are you feeling?

[TheRenegade345]

@Ru-bee 

i just feel overwhelming feelings of sadness and hopelessness. I feel so small

[Ru-bee]

I'm sorry to hear that @TheRenegade345 I can see that you've been going through some really hard emotions. I am curious - do you feel that a relationship will alleviate these negative emotions?

I can see that you're concerned about dying alone, which makes me wonder whether we need a romantic partner to bring worth and meaning to our lives? I know that it is natural to want that experience, but I know that there are many people who don't - does that mean that their lives are necessarily worse, or are they just different?