Living with Ourselves

[outlander]

forgot to add in some hugs to you @Sophia1  

@Appleblossomits very intense indeed. ive just started watching season 2

[Faith-and-Hope]

Hi @Sophia1 .....

Hearing you ..... 💐💕

I hope your friend who hasn’t visited you till now has solid reasons, because sometimes that is the case, and we can’t see into their lives without a window of some kind ...... she may have been going through a hard time of her own and not wanting to add to you burden in knowing that ...... while I don’t wish any sort of ill on her, it has happened to me before to be upset with someone, only to find that they were struggling with big things themself. I hope she arrives with a big hug, lots of love, and is there for you going forward.

It has been such a lonely time for you., and when everyone’s energy is spent, its hard to even lean on each other. I hope Frank is telling those people who enquire after you to please be in touch with you ..... not to be shy, because it makes all the difference to have people close around you. They may be mistaking it for giving you privacy.

Hugs n hugs @Sophia1.

We are bumbling along with our rollercoaster here ...... I have one enrolled in uni and managing, another is deferred with mi health issues having re-emerged. Both are attending psychologists.

I am enrolling for a Cert IV at uni this semester ...... everything seems balanced enough to give it a go, and th uni has a support system for students battling illness, injury, carer role, etc so this is a massive enabling facility for us. The kids being hit-and-miss with their attendance is covered by that, so it keeps them bouyant ......

[Faith-and-Hope]

Kudos to the young doctor @Sophia1 ..... 👍

[Sophia1]

@Appleblossom @outlander @Faith-and-Hope

thank you thank you thank you..

no extra support..

yes husband did tell me that he had said not up to visitors at beginning...I agree Faith..mental illness affects everyone in different ways withing home...if predisposed...yes will surface...good thing is acknowledged quickly..self acceptance and treatment..pleased to hear that you have something new happening in your life...I did cert 1V in business about 9 years ago...rewarding....some of study just common sense...nice to see the certificate at the end...most important time for you now...others are adults and life will settle ...happen around us...good luck

outlander...have recommenced psychotherapy...will follow up soon re inviting...some issues as I have to lay or stand...walk...will get around it ...follow up after my review with neurosurgeon this week...have also had family member ongoing issues circling as well...

life goes on no matter what we are going through

@Appleblossom agree with your response....have watched first episode of handmaids tale...gruesome..horrendous...again life...am watching interspersed with other series to lessen the effect ...I read the book...very good..recommend..

thanking each of you...your responses mean far more than you can imagine...

yes here come the dratted tears again...

 

[Sophia1]

@Faith-and-Hope

was tall dark and handsome.....a bit of a quandary due to the nature of his visit...

[Former-Member]

Hi @Sophia1

Thanks for the update. Long, slow recoveries are difficult at the best of times let alone with all the additional things going on in your life. Post surgery can be a particularly rough period.

Was wondering how things were going on the home front.

Sending gentle thoughts your way.
Darcy

[Teej]

Hearing you too @Sophia1. You have sooooo much going on just now, I can understand your mood swinging too. I hope the house is all sorted soon. I’m wishing you a speedy recovery from your surgery. Keep being really gentle with you because 'wow' you really do have a lot going on. I find the visitor thing too difficult because I never know what my mood will be like. I am grateful for one friend who gets it though. Actually she doesn’t get it because she hasn’t experienced anything like this at all but accepts it and me. 

I agree with @Faith-and-Hope that maybe hubby could suggest them contacting you when you feel up to it. I have been guilty of being too scared to talk to someone but have checked in on them through family before. It’s only recently I understand that isn’t such a good thing to do and your posts reminds me that it can also be hurtful so thanks for saying so. 

Im going ok just now, all my chaos has eased a little. I’m making plans for more than a day ahead which is a first for a while, although you can giggle because those plans are probably for a week ahead which seems to be as far as I can look into the future without coming undone. 

I just wanted to drop in and say hi. I am very erratic around the forum these days but when I catch something in the moment I’m on the forum I try to respond. 

💜🤗

[Mazarita]

Hi @Sophia1, just adding good wishes and gentle hugs for what you are going through. Physical and mental unwellness go together badly, I know this from past experience. So sorry you have to endure this awful time. May the pain and complications unravel and ease with each new day, and peaceful feelings return. 

[Former-Member]

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