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BlueBay
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struggling again

hi my friends @Emelia8 @Shaz51 @Eve7 @oceangirl and everyone else i have missed

 

i have come on here for a little bit - part of me misses a lot of the members that have helped me over the years and i am lonely and need to chat 

 

i have had two surgeries lately which have taken it's toll.  waiting for results for 2 weeks sent me into a high anxiety spin.  results back now and all good, no cancer in my thyroid but it had to come out.

on new meds which is helping me lose weight.

fathers day was a bad day.  i have no contact with my parents because of my mum, as some of you know she has been horrible to me.

more PTSD childhood trauma reappearing last week which sent me into a panic state

been seeing my psych and dr fortnightly as i haven't been good

 

i have been crocheting handbags and baby blankets and a cafe has decided they will take some to sell.  

Little A is almost 7 can you believe it?

i really miss my dad and i don't know what to do anymore; i feel so stuck.  he is 87 now and not good with his health.

 

 

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Wow little A is almost 7 now @BlueBay 😍

Hope you have a speedy recovery after your surgeries 

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Hello @BlueBay , it's good to see you on here today. I'm sorry about your surgery and Father's Day but pleased there was no cancer. Little A is 7!!! Time flies, our little Miss M is 7 too and a right little princess, in a good way. I adore her funny ways.

 

Yes, you're right about my son. He had a cardiac arrest in April and could not be saved. It's been awful and I hate waking up every morning knowing he's no longer here.

 

Take care and thanks for dropping by. xox

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Hugs @Eve7 ❤️

 

Soo pleased there is no cancer xx @BlueBay 

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Big hugs and love to you @Eve7 snd your family. Xxxxoooo

 

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Hi @BlueBay 

I know all too well the anxiety of wasting for test results.  I have to have a test every 3 months to see if my own cancer had started to go up again.  I had the last one a week ago and the week leading up to that was really difficult for me.  Luckily, the numbers were still going down, so i'm feeling a lot better about that, but still knowing it's going to get difficult again, leading up o the next test in November.  Congratulations of the great result though, obviously a massive relief for you.

 

Dealing with these health stresses worries on top of other issues certainly does get on top of you quickly, especially without close family or friends around.

 

Sorry to head father's day was such a bad day for you.  It's never been a great day for me either, but I can only imagine how much harder it was for you knowing you dad isn't well and you cant go see him.

 

I really hope that returning here helps you like it did previously and you feel less alone.  Take good care of yourself BlueBay.

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So sorry about your son @Eve7, I can't even imagine how difficult it must be for you and your family.

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@BlueBay !

 

So so so good to hear from you! Thank you for popping in. I've been thinking about you a lot actually.

 

I'm so glad I happen to see this thread.

 

Little A is 7!!! No way! She's a bright little one. She must adore you, her beloved Nonna!

 

Hugs to you @BlueBay .

 

Hope to hear from you soon.

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Morning ❤️ @BlueBay , @MJG017 , @Eve7 , @tyme , @Emelia8 

 

Thinking of you 🤗 today and wishing you a ok day 

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Thanks for the tag @Shaz51 .  For some reason I never got a notification from @BlueBay post from Tuesday. ☹  I did get your post on my thread however, and thank you for that 💕.  So my apologies it has taken me so long to respond.  I only noticed your new thread when I got a tag from Shaz today.

 

Hi @BlueBay .  Lovely to see you again, though sorry its under circumstances where you are not doing so well.  You have had a lot happening by the sounds of it.  And yes I have missed you too.  It does get lonely at times, I agree.  Though I have my little dog Hannah these days, so she helps me a lot.

 

Two surgeries, wow!  I know what that's like, having gone through 3 major surgeries back in 2022. Plus my cancer surgery in 2020. It takes a toll on our bodies, as well as on our mental health and our emotions.  Its hard.  I am relieved for you that there is no cancer in your thyroid, though its not great that it had to be removed.  No doubt you will need to be on medications to supplement the usual function of a normal healthy thyroid.  I guess that's one positive that you can look at - you are now on a new medication to help you lose weight.  I know that is something you have been wanting for ages.  So fingers crossed that goes well for you, with the least (negative) side effects possible.  

 

Health anxiety is a very real thing isn't it?  Speaking of cancer, I have my 6-monthly scans and ultrasounds coming up next week.  Followed by an appointment with my radiation oncologist the week after.  I always get very anxious waiting for results, so I can fully understand your high anxiety spin over your own health issues.  It really isn't easy.

 

I am so sorry that you are still not having any contact with your Dad.  That must be so hard for you.  And no doubt for him too.  Yes I can well imagine that fathers day would have been a tough day for you then.  A bit different for me, my first fathers day without my Dad who passed away at the end of July.  But similar in a way.  More frustrating for you I guess, because your Dad is right there.  You just are unable to see him due to your interfering nasty mother.  I am so sorry.  87yo, he is a ripe old age now.  My Dad was 91yo when he passed away, and never would have expected to live to such an old age, as most of his family died pretty young, mostly of heart attacks.  

 

I am glad you have been able to see your psych and your Dr fortnightly at a time you have been in need.  Some people don't have that luxury.  So I guess we need to count our blessings, don't we?  I'm fortunate in that my own PTSD has been fairly under control of late.  I am on medications to help with it, and I have my little dog as well.  Both of which help a lot.  So I am hoping that the combination will keep in out of trouble in the foreseeable future.  Fingers crossed.

 

Almost 7 !!!  Goodness me, little A.  Wow, she is almost grown up.  How time flies.  It seems like only yesterday that she was a tiny baby.  My own grandchildren are fast growing up too, my youngest will turn 12 this year.  Oh dear, almost a teenager.  Mind you, my eldest is 23.  I'll bet you continue to gain just as much enjoyment from your little grand daughter now, as you ever did?  How is she doing at school?

 

Okay, that's about it from me for today.  But when you respond, I will try to chat some more.  Though I really don't get on here all that much these days.  Though for you my friend, I will try. 😊💞

 

Hi to your other friends here @Shaz51 @MJG017 @Eve7 @tyme 👋

 

Emelia 🌺