05-06-2015 06:02 AM
05-06-2015 06:02 AM
I am on borrowed time. Every experience I have had in my life has brought me to this moment.
05-06-2015 11:51 AM
05-06-2015 11:51 AM
My heart and thoughts are with you FreetheOpressed, I'm the father of 2 wonderful kids and I just can't imagine my life in your situation.
I would love to be able to offer you more however I'm just another doing my best to get along and jump all of the bureaucratic hoops.
It does sound like you have exhausted all avenues, the only one that came to mind is
I truly wish you all the best
WombatBoots_Matt
05-06-2015 12:30 PM
05-06-2015 12:30 PM
Hi @FreetheOpressed,
Welcome to the Forums and thank you for sharing your story. This is a great place to find support and share your journey with others.
I can't imagine how it must feel to have all these things impacting on your relationship with your sons. It sounds like you're really trying hard to find justice for your family.
As @WombatBoots says, it can be pretty hard to jump through all these bureaucratic hoops to try and do the best for ourselves and our families.
The Mens' Rights Agency looks like a great resource. Thanks @WombatBoots! I also came across these two organisations:
I haven't been involved with them, but it looks like they might be a good resource and perhaps a good place to connect with other people in a similar situation to you.
Thank you again for sharing your story. The Forums are a place to exchange stories and give and receive support. While we can't offer you legal advice or advocate on your behalf, there are other members who have been through difficult family situations, so I hope you find some support here. You might want to check out our Community Guidelines to get a good understanding of what the Forums are about.
And again, welcome!
05-06-2015 02:28 PM
05-06-2015 02:28 PM
Acacia got it .... Dads in Distress is the one I was trying to think of, I have heard good things
again
all the best mate
17-06-2015 12:25 AM
17-06-2015 12:25 AM
Hey Wombatboots,
Thank you for your feedback. It's really nice to know people are interested, and care enough to take the time to respond. I'm humbled. I also recieved a the names of the services you thought may be ablt to assist. They are specifically for men though are they. It's possibly because this Family court witchunt was instigated by a "vindictive woman" which I mentioned in my story. I've been extremely naieve and trusted the process and justice system to base their decisions on the evidence. I'm not academic either so when it comes to writing Case Information Affidavits and court processes puts me behind the 8 ball from the get-go. Up against an academically qualified school teacher and mental health worker. She also knows how to 'play the game'. In fact I'd call her a Master when it comes to that. I made a fatal mistake early in the court process, The court ordered a case assessment conference. Felt more like a child protection interrogation and everything I said fell on deaf ears. I am no match for the "picture perfect sweet talking catholic matyr". I don't look so pretty coming from the University of Hard Knocks, and not one to keep up with the Jones's or conform to outdated 17th century culture of conformity.
The first fatal mistake I made was to make a formal complaint about the consultant's conduct, and my certainty that would be reflected in her report (which it was). I expected that to be handled professionally, a meeting with her & her supervisor and an outcome that addressed my concerns. Not to be, but has led to a snowball of associated court staff & legal professionals my complaint has backfired and all backing each other up. It's bullshit. I'm stressed at the moment because I had to go another round with another consultant from the same unit. I've been assured there is no conflict of interest even though he is a colleague. I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but when he called to clarify a few things his manner was very different. It's really doing my head in on so many levels.
Sorry Wombat. Didn't mean to ramble, but as you can see I remain consumed. I think I'll call the Human Rights Commission tomorrow and see if I can get appropiate support. If that doesn't help I'll call COPMI and see if they can link me in with a legal or advocacy service.
I haven't had time to explore the Sane Forums yet. I look forward to it though, and getting to know like minded people where there is mutual support.
Thanks for taking the time with me Wombat. Very much appreciated 🙂
05-07-2015 04:35 PM - edited 05-07-2015 08:52 PM
05-07-2015 04:35 PM - edited 05-07-2015 08:52 PM
Please @FreetheOpressed I hope you are ok.
You might relate to some of what I have written about being triggered by a Brene Brown video.
I also had many thoughts about taking my life in the court jurisdiction to communicate my frustration at the injustice I experienced. I was used to get custody of one child, which then apparently caused me to lose rights to my own biological children.
Family Courts and magistrates do need to know some long term consequences of their judgements. The legal process does not always give that to them
05-07-2015 05:06 PM
05-07-2015 05:06 PM
I am on this forum partly to get support for me and partly to give support and tell my dad's story who died when I was 11. I spent my life trying to find his story. Dad didnt suicide but died of pleurisy but there were lots going on in late 60s that was similar to your case, which backed him in a corner and wrecked his physical health. My brother next in line started the process of research, but sadly did not make it through to see the photos I got of dad from the 1930s or to see as many pieces of our family jigsaw that I have been privliged to put together..
Your son will always benefit from having a living dad. I have curled up in my fathers grave to get comfort.
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