Hypersexual in a Monogamous Relationship, currently no touch policy

[Ouroboros]

Hi all, 42 F ADHD/Bipolar II, Anxiety and Depression.

I am currently struggling with my relationship, we have gone no touch because my partner is very sensitive.

They feel sick when I am in the same room cause I cause them stress, stress from money, stress from the emotional toll of the relationship, it's making it very hard to have my needs met as a person who wants and needs sex to connect.

How have you dealt with partners when they don't seem to be the right match? What can I do to help myself and help him.

I feel lost.

[Ru-bee]

Hi @Ouroboros 

It sounds like this has been quite difficult for both of you, with your widely differing needs in terms of physical affection. It would be very hard to hear that your presence in the same room as your partner causes them to feel discomfort. These are some really big hurdles to get over, and I'm wondering if you and your partner would be open to seeking the support of a couples counsellor?

This sounds like a relationship that does mean a lot to you, and you clearly care for your partner deeply to be so considerate to their needs. I think that if you haven't already, then having an open and honest conversation with your partner about your needs and how you have been feeling. This is where having a counsellor there can be helpful as they can help to facilitate the conversation and support you both through it.

[Ouroboros]

Hypersexual in a Monogamous Relationship, currently no touch policy 

Thank you @Ru-bee 

He wants to speak to a professional about it but he wants to do it in his own time and doesn't want to feel pressured.

I am doing my best to be patient and find ways to satisfy my needs, but it's just not the same. 

I don't want to give up on this relationship, I love him so much than just the physical. I feel very connected to him on an intellectual level as well since my attraction type is Sapiosexual.

Most days I lie in bed crying.