Can we go back to A and start again. Appleblossom, Amethyst, Art
I have been lucky in that I have not had a lot of problem with dealing with alcohol and drunks. So I never felt joining those groups appropriate.
My mother tended to over dramatise the few times my dad or brother got drunk and I felt that her fear about it (based on her dad) caused more problem of judgments and negativity for them than they really deserved. Inappropriate projections. So mostly we were tea totallers.
My ex could have gotten really bad. He just annoyed me a little bit if he finished pantry sherry or brandy that I bought for special recipes, but he managed to contain that problem for the sake of family. It was my way of normalising and including but having some boundaries. I just stopped doing fancy desserts. All in all my ex is pretty healthy now, he has a general schizophrenic-like personality, few freinds etc but good quality of life.
When I left my ex I bought a few cases of wine so that I could model for my children appropriate social drinking. I enjoyed the sharing and conviviality it brings.Its not an issue in the current generation of my actual kids, though a big issue in the world. I may not have a drink in a year or I might .. all depends.
This forum goes deeper to the issues as it is the reasons behind drinking and substance abuse that interest me.
cheers
