Peer Group Chat // Grappling Grief // Thursday 2nd May 2024, 7-8:30PM AEST

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@tyme  Permission to use the word “Blergh”? 
Possibly the best descriptive word I have read for this precise situation.

The psychologist I had said, it was my Jungian Rebel - to be happy against all odds.

I think it’s Dunning-Kruger effect, I either underestimate or overestimate my abilities. Mostly I don’t know what my abilities are lol.

I didn’t know what Dunning-Kruger effect was until this morning  - PAHAHA lol

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@tyme @Rockdog @survivor19 @Shaz51 @Henry2 @Captain24 @Snowie @Jynx 

Q5: How has grief impacted you? Has it ever had unexpected or uniquely challenging aspects?

I’m in the thick of this right now.

One event so many layers.

You know when the anxiety from all the layers is stuck at the top of your throat and you can feel it all the way down your stomach and in the arches of your feet?

I’m going to take a little break from packing my bag for my flight. Go down stairs, buy some lunch and come back to this.

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@tyme @Rockdog @survivor19 @Shaz51 @Henry2 @Captain24 @Snowie @Jynx 

Q6: What did you do to cope? What was helpful, and were there things that were unhelpful? 

Sunlight and Outdoors

I got myself outside, out of this very dark apartment with barely any natural sunlight.

Went downstairs to the coffee shop got some lunch.

Sit with your feelings and name them

Grief and fear - Layers of grief and fear.

Accept and Gratitude

In a message to daughter #2 and told her how grateful I was that she gave me a wonderful birthday last year, under horrible circumstances.

Say What You Need and Ask for Help

I also told her how grateful I am that I’m staying with her sister and Bee is taking me to the airport.

I needed family continuity from West Coast to East Coast.

My family is my home.

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[WildFlower1]

It will be my first one. I am not sure how it all works.

[Shaz51]

Hello and welcome @WildFlower1 

How are you tonight 

Will tag @moderator , @Former-Member 

[tyme]

Hey there @WildFlower1 ,

Thank you for reaching out. 

We have regular Peer Group Chats every Thursday evening, and go through a different topic. Our next chat will be held this coming Thursday at 7pm AEST. The topic will be Holistic Health. We will go through a list of questions and members have the opportunity to respond to each question. I will tag you on Wednesday evening in preparation for the chat on Thursday evening.

Alternatively, we are holding a Sunday Live Hangout which has a topic, but is not structured with questions. This is a space for members to hangout and catch up in real time online. You can read about this here: JOIN US! Live Sunday Hangout 7-8:30pm AEST 

[WildFlower1]

Thank you. I will try to make the Sunday one too if I can

[Former-Member]

Hey there @WildFlower1 🙂🌺

welcome and I hope you’re doing ok this coolish Friday evening 🙂

I’m PinkFlamingo, Peer Guide volunteer. Our wonderful @Shaz51 has tagged our moderators to help out for you, however I thought in the mean time I would say a quick hello 🌺

feel free to tag us using the ‘@‘ before typing a handle anytime. 
take good care and I hope your evening is going well 🌺🙂

[WildFlower1]

I love your user name. Thank you for the message. Today has been hard. Lying on the couch because that is all I can manage right now.

[tyme]

Hey @WildFlower1 ,

Hugs to you. It's totally okay that we have couch days. We've all had them. I'm sorry to hear it's been a tough day for you.

Hope it gets better soon.

We are so glad you have been able to reach out here on the forums. By connecting with people, I hope things get easier for you in that you won't feel alone in what you are going through.