Sleeping at a coworkers house, not doing well.

[Frayed_fae]

TW: sexually inappropriate behaviour (no details). Mention of substance use.

The last few months have been challenging and my mental health was already in a difficult spot. Then my best friend and housemate X who is engaged to my other best friend and housemate Y made me uncomfortable. While on substances X made comments to me and Y about not being totally happy in his relationship with Y and wanting to have a polyamorous relationship with both of us. He then was sexually inappropriate towards me.

This behaviour links up to previous weird moments with him and aligns with a similar experience 5 years ago where he was sexually inappropriate towards me, saying he thought I was Y at the time.

I have been distraught. X knows about this all and they are getting couples counselling but otherwise acting unphased. I struggle seeing them together because I think Y deserves better. It’s awkward at home and my mental health has taken a severe dive. They’re both being colder towards me and I feel like I’ve lost both of my best friends. It’s brought up sexual trauma for me.

So I’m sleeping in a coworkers house in her spare room. I still pay X rent and my belongings are still there. My car broke down this evening also and I’m unsure how to continue going to work. I’m anxious about taking more time off. I’m also incredibly stressed due to an upcoming indefinite overseas trip in January (1-2 years) which I’ve done minimal preparation for due to my mental ill health. I feel destabilised and like I’m drowning.

[tyme]

I'm sorry to hear about what's happened @Frayed_fae . It is no wonder you are feeling uncomfortable about the hole situation.

Would you consider speak to X about it, and letting them know your stance on their actions. It is not about disliking the person, but disliking their actions.

For example, "Last week, I felt very uncomfortable when....."

What do you think?

Good on you for sharing and seeking the community's support about this situation.

Looking forward to hearing from you.