the cue cards sound like a great tool @Snowie and totally get that even with those reasons written down, it can be hard not think 'is this enough?' i think that brains that have experienced trauma tend to find it much easier to hold onto reasons not to fight, then reasons to stay - and even though our brain thinks this way, it doesn't mean it's right, and unfortunately, it takes up more of our energy to challenge it.
it's tricky with guilt - the switch between something motivating us to making us feel guilty can be so quick. even family, they can push you keep going but they can sometimes feel like a burden. you're allowed to feel thankful and exhausted at the same time, i know i sure do. i think we have this pressure to only feel/portray the good emotions, but realistically life's a bit more complicated than that and we might feel a mix of emotions - and that's totally okay too. it's normal to feel contradicting emotions, and i think giving us the space to allow that and know its okay is important too. even if people have different situations to you, your reality and experience of pain is real too - your feelings are ALWAYS valid. we can't always control what we feel, and it's okay to let those feelings in - but we can control what we act on.
also the last post i was supposed to tag you after the first sentence, the last part was for Eve7 - sorry for the confusion!
