25-07-2023 09:28 AM
25-07-2023 09:28 AM
Hello and thank you for allowing me to be a part of this group. I’m in need of assistance or advice with my son. How do you get them to go and seek help? He’s 22 so I feel there is not much I can do, but I
am very concerned. I’m noticing his manic episodes are getting more concerning. He gets very grandiose, hyper, obsessive with channel vision and gets very obsessed with one thing, loses interest and then onto the next thing. I am extremely concerned if he doesn’t seek help either via counselling or medication that his brain will flip. He is just started uni again doing another course as he didn’t complete his first one, he started, he can’t stay at one thing and jumps from one thing to another. To add to the complexity of the matter, unfortunately my husband’s family are extremely toxic and have caused him a lot of trauma. We have nothing to do with them, however our son lets them back into his live and then he has another episode. They have also told him that you can’t trust Psychologist or counsellors. In the past he has not had good experiences when he was young with counsellors as we used to live in regional Australia and they just didn’t quite get what they were dealing with. I’m at a loss of how to help him and encourage him to get help or even talk to people that have a similar disease. I know he just wants to be normal and he thinks that the manic episodes and adhd give him an edge, which it doesn’t. The mixture of bipolar and ADHD and possibly narcissistic traits are not helping him. Any advice on how to best help him and also how to deal with my anxiety when he’s having an episode would be brilliant. Many thanks
25-07-2023 11:17 AM
25-07-2023 11:17 AM
Hi @Bianca4158
Welcome to the forums. I'm one of the peer moderators here at SANE. I'm so glad you reached out for support, it takes a lot of courage. You obviously care a lot about your son. I have a 22 year old and cannot imagine trying to make him do something he didn't want to. So I'm thinking that with your son's current issues it's going to be really difficult to encourage him to see someone - especially if he has narcissistic tendencies as you say. I'm wondering if Reach Out might be able to have some suggestions https://parents.au.reachout.com/ as they have a dedicated forum for parents of young adults. It might be worth reaching out to them.
But do keeping checking in here too. Your mental health is so important too and I can imagine it gives you a lot of anxiety to see your son like this. Do you have any particular ways you think might help you relax and be calm? Do you like meditation, walking in nature, that type of thing?
Warmest wishes
Hanami
25-07-2023 12:34 PM
25-07-2023 12:34 PM
Thank you for your reply I have left a message for reach to call me.
I love yoga and enjoy meditation. I need to start doing this again to look after my own health, otherwise I am if no use to anyone.
kind regards
25-07-2023 12:53 PM
25-07-2023 12:53 PM
Good on you @Bianca4158 . Some great first steps there ❤️
26-07-2023 05:36 PM
26-07-2023 05:36 PM
Hey @Bianca4158 ,
I was passing through and wanted to check-in to see how you are going. How is everything?
28-07-2023 04:16 PM
28-07-2023 04:16 PM
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