17-12-2024 07:27 PM
17-12-2024 07:27 PM
Struggling today
high anxiety
Worrying so much
financial stress
Want to go away disappear
crying
don’t know what to do
there seems no end to this
I can’t do this anymore
17-12-2024 07:38 PM
17-12-2024 07:38 PM
hi there @BlueBay i'm so sorry that you've been dealing with so much recently. i can imagine how scary and overwhelming it must be to have so many things on your plate right now, but please know that we're here for you. take a few deep breathes with me, deep inhales and deep exhales.
sometimes when so many things are happening at once, our brain goes into panic mode and we feel like there's no way out. but i assure you, there's always a way. did you want to talk more about what's been stressing you out?
do you have anyone you can lean on and share those heavy feelings with?
17-12-2024 07:47 PM - edited 17-12-2024 07:53 PM
17-12-2024 07:47 PM - edited 17-12-2024 07:53 PM
No one at home that I can talk to
They're Not interested
I can’t think
the thought of just going seems easier than worrying so much
I think I need to see my doctor or psych
our finances what’s left is going down very very quickly
and I feel so guilty about it
17-12-2024 08:02 PM
17-12-2024 08:02 PM
i hear that the financial situation you're dealing with is causing you a lot of anxiety and heavy thoughts. @BlueBay contacting your doctor or psych sounds like a good idea. i also wanted to link some crisis services that you can reach out to:
We've also got some lovely counsellors on our SANE Support Line that you can phone Monday-Friday 10am-8pm, 1800 187 263.
There's also free financial counsellors you can reach out to if you'd like some financial support:
I know this is a very stressful time for you, but please know that support is available and you deserve to have your voice heard. you don't deserve to go through this alone, i'm sitting with you. are you able to stay safe tonight?
17-12-2024 08:09 PM
17-12-2024 08:09 PM
I’m ok for tonight hopefully
I’ve got a headache
thanks for listening
I’m embarrassed to seek help finances
everything is relied on me to do eg bills etc; keeping an eye on bank balance
hubby has no idea at all
and this makes me so angry
17-12-2024 08:28 PM
17-12-2024 08:28 PM
good to hear you'll be safe tonight, and feel free to reach out to Lifeline or SCBS anytime as they are available 24/7.
i can imagine how stressful it must be to have all the financial responsibilities placed on you @BlueBay but please know that there's nothing embarrassing about reaching out for help. looking after the bills, bank acc, etc., can be a lot to manage on your own so seeking financial advice or support can help take away some of that anxiety you feel.
would hubby be able to help you out if he told him about it?
17-12-2024 08:33 PM
17-12-2024 08:33 PM
No he won’t help. The amount of times I’ve tried - he doesn’t want to do it.
he just goes with the flow not knowing at all sh ed n bills are due; the but r if each bill. Or how much is in the account. He will go and get petrol not knowing if there’s money in the account.
I lost my job 3 yrs ago and haven’t worked since. But I’m feeling like I’m been tightly squeezed in that I may have to go back to work. But I’m not able to work because of my mental health.
this is why I feel guilty. It’s my fault.
17-12-2024 09:09 PM
17-12-2024 09:09 PM
i'm sorry to hear he won't help out, it must be really frustrating having to handle thing on your own. @BlueBay have you tried setting card limits? i used to do that to help control my purchasing. on my bank app i set a limit of $X per day, and that way once I've reached the limit, I can't purchase anymore until the next day (but if you need to increase/decrease the limit, you can always edit it on the app whenever). i reckon talking to financial counsellors would be helpful as they've dealt with similar financial issues many times, so you're definitely not alone.
this isn't your fault! mental health issues can be challenging and sometimes we don't see these things coming. are you able to receive NDIS or centrelink support?
18-12-2024 05:35 PM
18-12-2024 05:35 PM
Hey @BlueBay just catching up on what's been happening for ya. You poor lil chook, no one should have to manage not just themself, but a whole household alone!! Not what we evolved to cope with.
It's not always easy to remember that we're also embedded in systems that are set up to squeeze every ounce of money, time, and energy out of us. You are not to blame for struggling to keep up financially when the price gouging of big corporations has gotten to the point of being predatory. You know I was actually putting decent savings away? Then, even though my circumstances haven't changed, I find myself back to living paycheck to paycheck!! Since these are things outside of our control, it follows that we also should not be blamed for them. You got nothing to feel guilty for.
If you want, we can chat a bit about how hubby has been responding? Up to you, I just find it curious that he's seemingly so oblivious to your distress (which might be assumptive of me, do correct me if I'm wrong).
18-12-2024 07:56 PM
18-12-2024 07:56 PM
He’s in La La land @Jynx with everything. He just doesn’t see it or want to see it (me not coping).
but then again I hide it a lot too from everyone.
If I talk about my mh he doesn’t say anything. No validation. Nothing.
im feeling so stressed about our finances. Feel like im been squeezed do tight they eventually it will win. I’ll breakdown.
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