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[Sunnyside226]

@ENKELI  I do agree since I been here it's changed.    Like we had good chats  about anything. 

But  this person who is the boss on the sane forums didn't have to mean about it.   All I really did was explain something to Jynx that I wasn't comfortable tagging the peer workers if they didn't reply     how's me explaining something I wouldn't do  mean I'm doing something wrong 

As I've said I don't really talk to peer workers everyday or every week like some  members do      what is a peer workers job if there here?  

That night I had my head bitten off made me feel so suicidal  that I didn't want to come back,      

My question  is  why does sane have peer workers if we aren't allowed to tag them or talk?  

I don't think me doing a feedback from is going to help

This is there a moderate person on?  

Sorry made no sense 

[Shaz51]

I tag peer workers everyday @Sunnyside226 , @ENKELI , @Oaktree , @Glisten , @TAB 

And you can tag me anytime 😊 

Yes there is a @moderator on 

And the Peer workers are back on Thursday so I will be tagging them 😁

[Oaktree]

Hi @Shaz51 

Has something happened?

There are substitute moderators on at the moment if there is a problem. As Shaz says our usual staff will be back on Thursday after a much needed break 

[Oaktree]

@PeppyPatti 

Hi hun, 

I feel bad because I haven’t been on this thread much lately. I didn’t know that you looked forward to my messages. I am honoured. I love you too. Now let’s talk about your troublesome gallbladder. When are you parting ways with it? I thought you were just waiting until after your wedding? How is married life? Are you blissfully happy? I am so happy for you hun x

[Oaktree]

@Sunnyside226 @TAB 

I have experienced mods following me around all different threads before. It does make one feel a bit paranoid. Like I am not that important guys, leave me alone. It was around the time I had had a falling out with another member so maybe they were keeping an eye on my interactions in general. I don’t know but I didn’t like it.

[Oaktree]

@Sunnyside226 

The peer support workers seem to finish work around 10pm AEST and then the night mods don’t really interact, they just keep an eye on things. The peer support team do interact.

[Sunnyside226]

@Oaktree  who's the moderate that's on?

I mean when I had ru_bee she said she's finished for the day which was 6 at night which I didn't know then I had tagged Jynx 2 days later saying hi how are you etc they message back saying they had finished for the night at 8 

The next day I had told Jynx I was upset because I kept missing them I didn't know they finished at that time 

Jynx already had said I was allowed to tagg the peer workers as many times as I wanted I said no because I didn't feel comfortable doing that 

That's when the "boss person on the forums" said It was a peer to peer platform  which I know   but  she didn't have to take my head off when all I did was explain something I wasn't going to do    I've said before there's members in here that tagg the peer workers all day everyday. They seem tobe  ok with that 

What's the point of having peer workers on here if you only get in trouble for chatting to them it makes no sense to me,   I have also said  I don't always talk to them there's weeks where I only talk to members. Yes from time to time I may tagg a peer worker ask how they been  why did it hurt the that worker so much  

I don't think they understand how suicidal I was after that made me feel worthless. I don't care if they having a shit day   don't take it out on others who have done but try to explain something 

Does it matter if I'm suicidal no does it matter if she hurt my feelings no because nobody fixes things on sane 

I'm sorry ok I'm sorry  please forget that 

[Oaktree]

@Sunnyside226 

I don’t know who the moderator that is on now is but you can just generally tag @ moderator (without the space)

So sorry that you had that bad experience with your interaction with moderators. People tag and chat to them all the time. In fact I know of one thread where it is the member talking only with one of the workers. There doesn’t seem to be a problem. I can’t explain why you had that experience.

[ENKELI]

@Sunnyside226 no honey you made perfect sense. 

There is so much that could be achieved with the fora (forums). I have been helped many times but every time I get a "you can't say that" message I feel like I've been a naughty child and slapped on the backside.

There needs to be some accountability somewhere. If a person doesn't like the thread, then don't engage in it! It's that bloody simple. If there is a thread I don't agree with I ignore it. If I am tagged in that thread then I will explain my opinion. Yes I AM opinionated, but I am also compassionate and caring (so I've been told) and I would rather run over my foot with a truck than hurt someone. 

Sane "bosses" need to go back and have lessons in compassion and kindness. Don't talk to the users the way they do - have they never heard the expression Kindness Costs Nothing?

You've got me rambling now, and that's a problem,,,ha ha ha!

Take care sweetie, there are some people here who are with you and agree with what you've said. 

Love and hugs

[Sunnyside226]

@Oaktree the @moderator s are fine it's not them I have trouble with