@ENKELI I read ya whole post hun, and first off I do really appreciate your openness and vulnerability!! Hope even just the act of writing it out was helpful.
It does sound like your mum has some unprocessed/unhealed wounds of her own, and it is a very emotionally mature stance to be able to hold empathy and understanding for that. Doesn't mean it didn't also have a lasting impact on you and your relationships! Our parents may have been doing the best they could, but it also just wasn't good enough to ensure we could grow up with safe, secure functioning in ourselves and with our loved ones. We've had to carve those out for ourselves.
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I do wonder what my purpose is because surely life shouldn't be as sh*tty and painful as this is. And I get annoyed when people tell me that there are people worse off than me. It doesn't help that's for sure!
Aww hun! I hate this platitude, reminds me of this Brenee Brown video about empathy - the whole 'at least you don't have x!' BS, which to me is basically just a veiled attempt to say 'I don't understand and your emotions are uncomfortable for me, you should stop feeling them'. Grrrr
Anyway, hope your Saturday is going just swell 😘
