20-01-2025 05:28 PM
20-01-2025 05:28 PM
@Gremlin24 I mean, I definitely struggle with picking a single 'fav' of anything... like my fav colour is.... pretty ones, when they're combined in interesting ways. My fav tv show is.... whichever one I've been most invested in lately.... fav music is.... whatever makes me groove.... Sometimes it feels like having to pick a single fav of anything means kinda... narrowing the scope of what I'm allowed to enjoy. IDK, does that resonate with you or is your experience a bit different?
20-01-2025 05:31 PM
20-01-2025 05:31 PM
@Jynx i don't know, I just get frustrated when someone asks me what my favourite colour is or something. It's like i just can't pick and it just makes me frustrated. Guess I'm just strange 😂.
20-01-2025 05:35 PM
20-01-2025 05:35 PM
No no that's exactly what I mean @Gremlin24 I can't just pick one!! Hmmm I think maybe it's because they're questions usually asked in an attempt to get to know a person, so suddenly I feel like I have to provide a 'correct' answer because I'm being (in a way) evaluated on it!!
20-01-2025 05:37 PM
20-01-2025 05:37 PM
@Jynx yes and then the fear of being judged on what you say. Like is that the right answer, should I have said that, are they going to think I'm weird?
20-01-2025 05:47 PM
20-01-2025 05:47 PM
@Gremlin24 yeah totally. Especially if it is a person with whom you are hoping to build an authentic connection!! It's really hard to detangle ourselves from the pressures of society, the ones that tell us we need to be or act a certain way to be socially acceptable. I reckon it's this pressure that makes it hard to feel like we can answer honestly. So it's like, double factor!! I don't know how they will respond, AND I don't like defining myself by having to choose just one thing!
20-01-2025 06:04 PM
20-01-2025 06:04 PM
@Jynx so very true. I just avoid conversations with anyone now so I don't have to worry too much.
20-01-2025 06:27 PM
20-01-2025 06:27 PM
@Gremlin24 whatever works eh? I sometimes just have like, generic responses ready to go so I don't have to think about it. Until I'm in a situation with ice breakers haha.... my fun fact about myself is that I hate ice breakers 🤣
20-01-2025 06:29 PM
20-01-2025 06:29 PM
@Jynx i don't have any fun facts about myself. I'm just weird and crazy, clinically insane 😂.
20-01-2025 08:08 PM
20-01-2025 08:08 PM
Hi @Shaz51 Been a very rough few days. Best call with crisis line though, hopped in the car after to go sit in the bush listening to birds, needed that. Might watch more of 100 Years Of Solitude on Netflix, best adaptation of a book ever IMO.
I hope you are doing well😊
20-01-2025 08:42 PM
20-01-2025 08:42 PM
@Gremlin24 omg that just gave me a very funny mental image... did you ever hear that song by Cypress Hill, Insane in the Membrane? It's here!
Anyway just picturing you at any ice breaker event when they ask you to share a fun fact about yourself, and you just start singing that song at them until they leave you alone 🤣🤣
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