Top Things NOT to say to yourself - challenging negative self talk

[kato]

This topic is something i really struggle with, What not to say to myself.

from my reaction to some comments on my posts, regarding the characteristics others see in me from my posts and how i can't see that.

i am currently working on my negative self talk with my psychologist.

The simplist and thus the starting point of my negative self talk is, i have no self confidence in what i say.

i have no belief in myself, and i warrant no response from others as i don't deserve them.

I do struggle greatly when i read peoples responses to something i have written, and they mention all these good things about me that i don't see. I can't wrap my head around them.

Hopefully with working on my negative thoughts with my psychologist i can begin to change i am worthless to i am worthy, begin to change I am a failure, to i can succeed. change I am weak to i am strong. I am guilty to i am free from guilt.

Negative self talk is one of my biggest issues.

but i am working on it

And thanks to the members here i am starting to realise that i am better then i think i am.

thank you

[Rick]

@kato 

Hello Kato,

You are not alone in this struggle. I would think that most of us one some way or another have negative self esteem.

I caan guarantee you that I do. There aint much I don't despise about myself. But I learned that those who do in fact for me would not tolerate my self put downs. I really did'nt want to keep disapointing them but at the same time I had no experiences or self belief to draw on.

So  I went with an evidence based protocol.

I take what  is said to me as evidence of a different truth and believing my friends would never piss in the pocket, I try to remeber their truth about me.

It is taking time and effort and as of yet I don't feel it, but I say the right things even if I havent integrated them.

Under stress I can't help but be confused about their good will. I i guess I still wait for the time they dump me. But then again I've known them for 20-30 years and so I spose thinking rationally for just a moment ( only a moment, mind) if they were gonna do that they probably would have already.

take your time. Be patient with yourself. It's an uphills fight to take this stuff on board. But with out it we may as well give up. 

And giving just aint an option.

Keep on trucking dude, you got the gear to do the job.

Hope endures

rick

[Former-Member]

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