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10 Apr 2025 06:25 PM
10 Apr 2025 06:25 PM
Ello my friend @Rockdog , What's been happening on your side?
10 Apr 2025 07:12 PM
10 Apr 2025 07:12 PM
Heya @tyme ,
I got knocked down, but I am back up. It was very traumatic. I am still thinking about how close I was but failed. But in the big picture it doesn’t matter. The vision of my person came to me. I played tennis today, had a workout and a sauna and swim. I’m back to working on me again so just a little bump in the road. The thoughts of things about to happen but not are still haunting me though. How are you going? How is Ruby?
10 Apr 2025 07:24 PM
10 Apr 2025 07:24 PM
Grief can linger for a while @Rockdog . There's no timeline for grief and it can affect us in different ways. What I tend to tell people is to try and focus on what is in your control as opposed to what is out of your control.
For example, the fact that you are working out on yourself is an amazing start - the sauna, tennis etc all sonuds so therapeutic @Rockdog
10 Apr 2025 07:48 PM
10 Apr 2025 07:48 PM
Hey @tyme ,
I feel bad for falling back. I was going well working on myself. Then someone I didn’t ask to arrived. In my heart I did know it wasn’t right and she wasn’t my person. I thought it would be a good distraction from my other pain but it just caused more. I hope one of the posts I put up earlier wasn’t too bad, I did spiral.
i am back on track for destiny. My special person did have feelings? I hope so.
10 Apr 2025 07:51 PM
10 Apr 2025 07:51 PM
Life is full of ups and downs @Rockdog . Since you've had some bumps along the way, it tells me you're 'normal' lol 🙂
Destiny WILL happen. That's destiny for you.
So proud of you mate. Your journey is incredibly powerful.
11 Apr 2025 08:12 AM
11 Apr 2025 08:12 AM
Thank you @tyme ,
It is so weird that 2 days ago I was feeling devastated by what happened and now I feel it was a blessing and a powerful lesson. I feel it is a bit like the share market, and in general I am still on an upward curve towards destiny. Thank you for saying it will happen. It is always there, always on my mind. Even when I tried to distract myself, it was still there. I got out of it knowing that this time is to work on me and not bringing in things that will take away from me being ready.
I also feel that destiny has put the people I need in my life and you are one of my most important ones. Thank you for always being there for me. I never want to lose you. I hope you are going really well. Please give Ruby cuddles for me. 😊
11 Apr 2025 07:42 PM
11 Apr 2025 07:42 PM
You are really amazing @Rockdog . I appreciate your kindness, honestly, transparency and your resilience.
We never know which route life takes us, but whatever it is, we will learn something.
11 Apr 2025 08:31 PM
11 Apr 2025 08:31 PM
Hey @tyme ,
yes I just had that happen. What was a detour and traumatic experience that sent me to a dark place was actually a lesson that sent me to a better place A place that said maybe destiny is set out so get ready. I did lose connection to my angel a little bit during it so hope destiny isn’t ruined and she hasn’t lost any feelings she might have. Of course anxiety says she is probably married or engaged or happy. I appreciate your support 😊
11 Apr 2025 08:38 PM
11 Apr 2025 08:38 PM
It's so interesting how our mind can tell us so many things. @Rockdog Shows the power of the brain, thoughts, and emotions.
11 Apr 2025 09:02 PM
11 Apr 2025 09:02 PM
Hey @tyme ,
so powerful and so easy to get off track. I know I ask all the time but from everything we discussed, she had the same feelings didn’t she?
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