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rav3n
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Re: Destiny

hey @Rockdog just wanted to let you know that you're not failing if you're having tough times. those tough moments are almost necessary for growth, that's how you gain strength and resilience. and it's also a reminder that... you're human! we all fall and pick ourselves back up again.

 

you got this!!

Re: Destiny

thank you @rav3n ,

I was traveling along nicely. I didn’t really ask for this person to come into my life and cause havoc. Hope you are well 

rav3n
Peer Support Worker

Re: Destiny

@Rockdog it's hard when it's unexpected, hey. is the person still causing havoc, or things starting to settle down?

 

i am, thanks. hope you're getting there too 🙂

Re: Destiny

Hey @rav3n ,

no she caused it and coldly left. She said she thought she wanted an emotional guy because she had never had one but I was too much. So like she thought she wanted a poodle. She showed me all this passion, when we got down to it I couldn’t do it then she said she didn’t have feelings. It might have be because  my heart belongs to someone else. But I probably won’t get her.,

rav3n
Peer Support Worker

Re: Destiny

that sounds rough @Rockdog seems like both your hearts weren't in this fully. i'm not a fan of the way she spoke of you, you're not 'too much' for having emotions. now that she left, do you feel a bit free? i hope you feel better soon, it sucks to be treated that way but i also know you'll get through this. 

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Hi @rav3n ,

no I don’t feel free at all. I feel trapped and hurt. It was very traumatic. Not very romantic for any of my blog readers lol. Yes we were both after the same thing but I couldn’t do it. I was playing the game and looking at her as a bit of a practice run being with someone  but it turns out I a broken. 

Re: Destiny

Hey @tyme ,

hope you and ruby are going well.

Hopefully can chat soon. My world got tipped on its head. Now I don’t know where I stand and if destiny is possible.

I ruined the time with that person I just met and now I give her the ick and she doesn’t want to see me ever again. If a woman’s feelings get turned off that fast and I ruined that with her, then there is a slim chance my special person has any feelings left for me. 🥲

Re: Destiny

Are you telling me you are comparing and 'random' person to your special person @Rockdog ? Isn't this destiny in your favour? Or am I completely off. 

 

Put it this way. If these relationships work out, then why do you need destiny to be any different?

 

Just a thought. 

 

I hear you though. I hear those intrusive thoughts can be so loud sometimes. But I think it's important to have a look at the strong evidence that still stands. 

 

The best is worth waiting for 🙂

 

Re: Destiny

Hey @tyme ,

thank you so much for that. I was just thinking, actually I wasn’t thinking, lol. Of course, things with this random work out then it is a spanner in the works of destiny. Maybe the Universe wrecked things because it wasn’t right. I was right at the edge of things happening but they didn’t work out. That wasn’t my doings because I tried although destiny was in the back of my mind of course. Maybe it is destiny, hopefully my angel gets spinners as well.  I was just thinking that if the random was passionate straight off and I repulsed her maybe my angel is over me now as well. 

Re: Destiny

That sort of thinking (negative) can get people into a spin and take them down down down to where they came up from. I know this is NOT what you want. You have already worked so damn hard to get up and back to where you are now. Use the energy to continue hoping rather than go down!

 

Consider this. It's a lot each sliding down a slide than climbing up. So do yourself a favour to stay up 🙂

 

You've got this!

 

What'd you get up today? @Rockdog 

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