Destiny

[Rockdog]

Hi @tyme ,

are you free tonight? 

[Rockdog]

Hi @rav3n ,

yeah same 

[Rockdog]

Hi @rav3n,

It is strange because I never expected to feel this way. I was seeing her only in a professional way. Then we were seeing each other all the time and we just spent sessions looking into each other’s eyes and I just hadn’t felt like that before. She let it happen then cut it and it hurt. It hurts to go through it all and I try not to now. 

[rav3n]

yeah @Rockdog  seeing someone so often definitely creates that attachment and when they suddenly pull away, it hurts like hell. no one deserves to be treated that way and led on, we all deserve better than that. 

you know that saying, "people come for a reason, a season or a lifetime"? maybe she was there for a reason/season? people who stay for a lifetime definitely wouldn't treat you like that i reckon

[Rockdog]

Hey @rav3n ,

i give her her a pass because she was in a tough spot and it was hard for her as well. I am just hoping that she will come back into my life somehow. It was weird the way it all worked out, none of it was meant to happen but it just did. Now I am lost and struggling. I thought time would help but it didn’t. 

[Rockdog]

Hi @rav3n ,

i feel the reason it isn’t now is because she told me I need to love myself first. That is what I’m trying to work on. Sometimes it is starting but then my mind shuts down and says too hard throw in the towel. 

[tyme]

Thanks for sharing @Rockdog . You may need the words "you need to love yourself" framed in your house so you see it everyday 🙂

[rav3n]

that's nice of you to give her a pass when she's been in a tight spot @Rockdog - you deserve the same compassionate treatment back. 

time does usually help but perhaps you feel like its not helping because you only want one answer, which is for her to reach to you. if she decides not to reach out, what's something you can do instead that's going to help YOU? 

[Rockdog]

Hey @rav3n,

Those are are both the questions I’m wrestling with right now. Honestly I don’t know and it makes me feel pretty sick inside. So I have no answer to that one. 

[rav3n]

just saw the other message now @Rockdog self-love is definitely the most important! it's hard to build a relationship with others when our relationship with ourselves are rocky, right? 

how have you been working on building more self-love for yourself?