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24-01-2020 11:40 AM
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24-01-2020 10:00 PM
24-01-2020 10:00 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
hello @outlander , @Former-Member , @greenpea , @Jacques , @Mrsjones , @Jay-e , @Former-Member , @Owlunar , @Appleblossom
very tired now
mr shaz has gone to bed
thinking of do my mum`s gardening tomorrow xxxxx
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26-01-2020 04:21 PM
26-01-2020 04:21 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
hello my wonderful friends @outlander , @Former-Member , @greenpea , @Jacques , @Mrsjones , @Determined , @Smc , @Former-Member , @Owlunar , @Appleblossom , @Faith-and-Hope , @Adge , @eth
well i went and had morning tea with mum and my aunty --- wow, i got really told to cut back or stop working because of my problems
I know they really care about me and I should cut back , BUTTTTT
I suppose there is no but to having health , who knows when I will be on a dialysis and looking for a kidney -- I only have one now
next check up is in march
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26-01-2020 04:38 PM
26-01-2020 04:38 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
People want the best for us @Shaz51
But those decisions are up to you - I agree you need to cut back to try and keep yourself but family is family and the members tend to think they know better when they have no idea really about the situation
And there are times when they miss the mark when deciding your choices - you know what's on your plate
But you will be doing your Mum's garden - you are a lot fitter than me -
I know you do your best
Dec
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26-01-2020 04:38 PM
26-01-2020 04:38 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
I often work myself into a stupor til I almost collapse. Sometimes I wonder if you and Mr Shaz do that too. Trying to find a middle way, that is active and healthy but reasonable for your age with enough rest and refreshment can be hard. It is my theme for this year. Finding a steady level of healthy activity.
I know the Centrelink requirements are a hassle, but I wonder if in the long run it might give you some cushion as well. Newstart does need to take into account health issues and those requirements should be reduced in the case of you Mr Shaz, as far as I understand. Surely the level you do will be taken into account as well.
Do take care you Bella. We need you in fine fettle.
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26-01-2020 04:39 PM
26-01-2020 04:39 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
not sure where to put this xxx
my step S3 and his partner who has 3 children of her own
they spilt up after their triplets had died at 26 weeks old
very sad
but now step S3 is living with his ex and her new partner and is childminding the grandchild and home schooling the son
everyone has cancelled the ex and the family
but I am the only one who is still in contact and the ex still calls me mum
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26-01-2020 04:43 PM
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Re: Not sure what to do !!!
thank you @Appleblossom , @Owlunar
I have been very bad not doing mum`s gardening
have been doing everthing else for her
we have being saying no to jobs
my next check up is in march with my specialists
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26-01-2020 05:21 PM
26-01-2020 05:21 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
mum`sgardening really needs doing but mr shaz has put everything else before hers
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26-01-2020 05:34 PM
26-01-2020 05:34 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
This is a good place to write about step S3 because you don't know what to do about it -
And why not - it sounds really weird to me - S3 living with his ex and her new partner - really strange - but then there is a saying that there's none so queer as folks and I guess it's there business
People who are partners often do split up with the death of a child - my marriage was over - and in S3's case it was triplets - and no doubt there is a lot of unfinished business there and it's really tough and sad - but still
And the ex still calls you Mum - and I think I recall that you don't really like that
I'm glad you shared - it must feel strange
Dec
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26-01-2020 05:51 PM
26-01-2020 05:51 PM
Re: Not sure what to do !!!
yes @Owlunar , it feels strange that she still calls me mum
and her 3 children still call me nana
but to keep in contact with my step S3 who has called me mum , since he was young , I feel I need to keep him close to mr shaz and me xoxo
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