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[greenpea]

after talking to my mental health nurse today i realised that i have never been in love. lust yes. i have liked intensely but never in love.

[Helpmeheal]

Your day will come. ❤️

[wellwellwellnez]

I'll admit I haven't been head over heals in a while. I have though. I'm also pretty nostalgic for that kind of feeling, perhaps against my more sensible instincts, then again perhaps love is sensible in its own way.

I think it's not as necessary as some of the movies and novels suggest. The Ancient Greek priestess/philosopher, Diotima, said that love is like a ladder moving upwards and also outwards. Meaning that loving yourself improves your love with others, and love with others improves love of community, then planet, then universe, so on. You know, that kind of thing. I actually like Diotima's outlook compared to the Aristophanes, other-half theory. The original other-half theory is a pretty hot story though and a good description of what deep love feels and looks like. Now I'm thinking of the Hedwig song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_zU3U7E1Odc

[tyme]

I hear you @greenpea ! I am so careful when I use the word 'love'. I feel it has a much deeper meaning than many realise. I also think there is a big difference between 'love' and 'lust'.

What do you think? 

[Captain24]

Me either @greenpea .

Never been in love and never been loved. When I say that I’m single I get asked ‘why’ or ‘what’s wrong with you’ 

[tyme]

Very interesting @Captain24 .

My life is so fulfilled and meaningful that I don't go out looking for 'love'. 

My wings take me so far that I couldn't imagine having my wings clipped at all!

[Clawde]

You are amazing, you have made a difference in my life never forget that, your the reason I keep coming back to this forum, you are someone I wish I know in my real life 🥰

[greenpea]

@tyme  i agree with you tyme. i am adopted my birth father ran out on my birth mother. my adopted father was an aggressive alcoholic. i dont trust men.

[tyme]

It's tough @greenpea to see the word 'love' so misused. I believe love is a gift. It is sacred. It is special. 

Lust comes and goes.